The Spark (by Hunter at Show Her Off Dance).
Mini-Date: The Driveway Conversation
Time: 10-15 minutes
Budget: $0
Here's an easy connection trick with zero planning :)
Next time one of you is coming home, instead of the usual park-walk-in-get-swallowed-by-the-house... try this:
The one arriving stays in the car.
The other slides into the passenger seat.
Talk for 10-15 minutes before going inside.
That's it.
Something about the car makes people talk differently than they do in the kitchen. Side-by-side seating, no kids, no dog, no doorbell.
Level it up: Bring two drinks. Now it's a date and you haven't gone anywhere.
I'd love to know what came up that wouldn't have otherwise!
Connecting Conversations
"Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person they are almost indistinguishable." ~David Augsburger
This weekend, try asking your significant other:
Who inspires you to be a better person?
What’s the recipe for raising good kids?
What do we need to talk about more?
Framework: Gold & Silver Dates
I've been working 1-on-1 with couples on date planning and one framework keeps clicking. Sharing in case it helps you two.
Gold Dates are:
1. Planned (on the calendar)
2. Out of the house
3. No children
Silver Dates are:
1. Planned (on the calendar)
2. At home, relationship-enriching
3. No children
Many couples don't have a date problem, they have a definition problem.
"Are we going on enough dates?" is impossible to answer because nobody agrees what counts.
When you define Gold + Silver, you can look at the calendar and actually see it. No more guessing.
For busy couples with kids, a realistic target might be 1 Gold + 1-2 Silver per month. Adjust to your season of life.
Talk it over this week. Maybe plan the next 90 days together.
Keep the sparks flying,
Hunter Masters
Director of Romance
