Stirring up spontaneity 🎆

Welcome to The Spark (by Hunter at Show Her Off Dance).

Every Thursday, I’m going to send you a quick, five-minute email with fun date night ideas, conversation starters, and resources to help strengthen your relationship.

My goal is to help you and your partner have more fun, feel more closely connected and create more meaningful memories together (just like with Date Night Dancing).

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Date Night

What better way to start off the year than to add some spontaneity to your relationship?

This is an easy way to infuse some lighthearted fun into date night.

Choosing a movie

Budget: free or the cost of renting a show.

Whatever you decide to do on your date nights, one way to start practicing spontaneity is to leave the choice up to chance.

This week, when you’re snuggling up to watch a show, instead of automatically choosing your go-to program (or genre), make some room for the unexpected.

There’s many ways you can choose your show at random. How about choosing the For You section, closing your eyes, and pointing to one? Or each of you writing down a list of possibilities, putting them in a bowl, and choosing blindly? Or flipping a coin?

However you decide to go about this, have fun and agree to follow through with whatever show is chosen.   

You could also agree to surprise each other once this week. The more you practice doing this, the easier it’ll be to come up with ideas on the spot.

What other ways can you get spontaneous? Let me know what you come up with!

The Love Lab

We’re going to stay with the theme of spontaneity this week. 

For long-term relationships, this can be super important to keep the spark going.

And for new relationships, this is where you can surprise your date and create amazing foundational memories. 

Why spontaneity?

I mean, it’s fun, so there’s that ;)

It also infuses something special and unique into an experience.

Adding a spontaneous element to something really routine can spice up your day and immediately adds some playfulness and can make things feel ‘new’. 

A good way to introduce some improvisation is to make way for the unpredictable.

Especially in matters of love, we can get stuck thinking about how our relationship should look. 

I’d like to encourage you to improvise something this week when you’re with your partner. The Date Night idea above is a good way to start :) 

You can also dive deeper into why spontaneity is good for relationships. 

This article is an excerpt from a book called Wired for Love: A Neuroscientist’s Journey Through Romance, Loss, and the Essence of Human Connection by Dr. Stephanie Cacioppo.