The Spark (by Hunter at Show Her Off Dance).
Connecting Conversations
Sometimes a great question is all you need to start a meaningful conversation :)
This weekend, try asking your significant other:
Has anyone put expectations on you that have shaped you?
If you were given a million dollars that you had to spend in one week (no ‘investing it’ either), how would you spend it?
What’s your best memory of your dad?
A Sparker shared last week:
“I like the thoughtful connecting questions that convey, ‘I'm thinking about you and want to know even more deeply who you are and how you are presently feeling mentally and emotionally.’”
Any insights or wins for you two lately?
5-Minute Connection: You Have to Guess
Think of a date memory and the other person has to ask yes/no questions only to figure it out. Then switch. Whoever had to ask the least questions to get to the answer wins! Prize? You two decide before you start 🔥
Links that May Spark Something
9 Best Board Games for Couples (Home date idea - Meggie)
Does Your Husband / Boyfriend Want This Too? You can ask. (Hormozi)
The Question that Changed His Marriage (Dr. Delony)
To Discuss: Is This What Keeps Love Alive?
Came across this interesting tidbit from The Harvard Gazette:
“Also important is retaining a genuine sense of curiosity about your partner, fostered both by time apart to have separate experiences, and by time together, just as a couple, to share those experiences.
Schwartz cited a study by Robert Waldinger, clinical professor of psychiatry at MGH and HMS, in which couples watched videos of themselves arguing. Afterwards, each person was asked what the partner was thinking. The longer they had been together, the worse they actually were at guessing, in part because they thought they already knew.
‘What keeps love alive is being able to recognize that you don’t really know your partner perfectly and still being curious and still be exploring,’ Schwartz said. ‘Which means, in addition to being sure you have enough time and involvement with each other — that that time isn’t stolen — making sure you have enough separateness that you can be an object of curiosity for the other person.’”
What do you two think?
How curious (on scale 1-10) would you each rate yourselves? Could be a fun car ride discussion!
Before you go: Here are 3 ways to connect & have fun
Download Free Love Languages Tactical Guide - Over 40+ ideas on how to ‘speak’ your partners love language.
Date Night: Conversation Gems - Bring more adventure & fun into your relationship with this guided ‘connection questions’ home date night experience.
Date Night Dancing - Connect & have a blast discovering how to dance together in your living room. If you already have the Gold package you can add Date Night 2/3 here.
Keep the spark’s flying,
Hunter Masters
Director of Romance
