New Year’s resolutions for two 💞

Happy New Year! Welcome to The Spark (by Hunter at Show Her Off Dance).

Every Thursday, I’m going to send you a quick, five-minute email with fun date night ideas, conversation starters, and resources to help strengthen your relationship.

My goal is to help you and your partner have more fun, feel more closely connected and create more meaningful memories together (just like with Date Night Dancing).

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Date Night

Well, it’s that time of the year: time to think about your goals for 2024! How about doing it together with your partner?

This week try setting some goals or discussing dreams for you as a couple.

New Year’s Resolutions for Two

For some people, specific goals might be easy to come up with, while others might have a hard time generating ideas.

I want to make it easy for you to get this conversation started :) 

Here are some general ideas to help you connect, have fun and get to know each other more deeply:

• Commit to regular date nights (see below for why this is important)

• Make a rule for no-technology time (ie. during meals, after work catch ups, a specific time of the day)

• Get moving together by choosing something active you both enjoy (research shows it also boosts your attraction to each other, so obviously do this one)

• Agree to actively listen to each other (bonus: take a course on active listening or read I Hear You together during your weekly date night)

• What were 3 of our happiest memories in 2023? How can we have MORE of those in 2024?

• What were 3 of our most stressful memories in 2023? What can we do to REDUCE those in 2024?

• If you really want to go deep on this, check out My Yearly Review Process

The important thing is making the time to do this together, without distractions. 

Enjoy your time dreaming up the year ahead and let me know what you come up with!

The Love Lab

I’m a big believer in making date nights a lifestyle. 

Why?

Because it is a simple tactical action you can take that almost guarantees a higher quality relationship (see below).

This means committing to regular weekly date nights (pick a day of the week or set dates each month) and sticking to it.

They don’t have to be huge or novel, in fact just like going to the gym, consistency is what we are after here.

If someone has the goal of getting in shape / changing their body and they consistently go to the gym every Monday, Wednesday, Friday, year in and year out - they are going to make progress. It’s about showing up.

There was a recent study showing that 83-84% (wives-husbands) of couples who went on regular date nights reported being “very happy” with their relationship / overall. 

If you’re still not convinced, check out this article from relationship counselors that goes into much more depth.

Why not do a test? For the next 90 days both of you commit to a weekly date night time (say Tuesday’s at 7 pm) for 1-2 hours and see how you feel about this March? Happy Dating 🙌🏻