The Spark (by Hunter at Show Her Off Dance).
Make it FUN
With Spring here you may be thinking about cleaning projects on your to do list.
Fuuuuun. Right? Probably not.
But we can make it a little fun with some prethinking.
Let's use cleaning out the garage as example.
That's on my to-do list (oh the joy lol)
Use this checklist to try and sprinkle in some fun:
Gamify it - Can I make it a game somehow? Set a time limit & try to beat it?
Treatify it - Can I give myself a treat for finishing it? Maybe order something off amazon wishlist or indulge in a nice dessert after
Gold Star it - Do I have a scoreboard or visible list I can 'check off' so I feel a sense of accomplishment?
Soundify it - Can I bring a speaker and add music? Or have a stand-up comedy show playing in background?
Surprise it - If I was doing this with my partner (nope single haha) how can I add an element of surprise during this? Add in some dancing? Her favorite snack? Have a little gift for her 'hidden' in the garage that we 'discover' when cleaning?
Those are just a few ideas to get you going.
Don't have to use them all, sometimes just one is plenty to add some spark. Try it with your next date.
One of my personal principles is: "If I'm not having fun I'm doing it wrong."
In full disclosure I have not been having fun writing The Spark lately, I feel like I need to go back to the drawing board and try some new approaches.
I'm concerned it's not useful or fun (ah!) and I hate the idea of contributing more noise in an already noisy world.
I am marinating on shifting the focus to helping men bring more spark into their relationships via the power of words and emotions.
Thoughtful texts, love letters, conversation frameworks, emotional tools, gift ideas and of course QUESTIONS.
I really think questions are the 'Infinity Loop' of relationships (all).
Fellas, if you are not using the connection questions with your lady you are missing out on an easy way to keep intimacy alive and well.
Perhaps I'll dive deeper into that next week, sounds fun :)
Connecting Conversations
““Ultimately, the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or friendship, is conversation.”
~Oscar Wilde
This weekend, try asking your significant other:
What about you feels hardest to love?
What’s one small way we can improve our sex life?
What kind of museum would you open if you were given the money for it? How would you make it fun?
Yup getting a liiittle messy in here
Before you go: Here are 3 ways to connect
Free Love Languages Tactical Guide - Over 40+ ideas on how to ‘speak’ your partners love language.
Date Night: Conversation Gems - Just press play and start diving into fun conversation together.
Date Nights: Living Room Dancing - Have a blast discovering how to dance together at home.
Keep the sparks flying,
Hunter Masters
Director of Romance
