The Spark (by Hunter at Show Her Off Dance).
Connecting Conversations
Merry Christmas!!
When the chaos is over here are some questions to help you two reflect and chat about how it all went for you:
Next Christmas, I hope we’re proud that we…
One tradition I want us to protect is…
One thing from this year I don’t want to repeat is…
Next Christmas, I want our home to feel more…
One small thing we can start in January to move toward that is…
Optional: drop it in a shared note titled:
“Next Christmas, Us… Open December 25, 2026.”
Date Idea: The “Do Nothing” Night
Christmas is full. People. Presents. Noise. Dishes. Group texts. Weeeeee!
This week, give yourselves one night that is for... doing almost nothing.
Step 1: Pick your Do Nothing Night
Look at the next 7 days and decide together
Step 2: Set the rules (simple ones)
ie - Your Do Nothing Night is:
No family plans
No social events
No house projects
Phones away for at least 30–60 minutes
Also:
Takeout or easy food
Comfy clothes
One low-effort shared thing (movie, show, board game, puzzle, music + couch)
Step 3: Add one tiny connection moment
At some point that night, ask each other:
“What part of this past week drained you the most?”
“What part of it made you feel closest to me?”
That’s it. No big resolutions. Just a little breathing room to recharge from the holiday madness together.
Connection Boost: 3 Tiny Thank-Yous
Sometime this week, slip your significant other these three specific thank-you‘s. You can say them, write them in a note, or text them.
Thank you for something you did
“Thank you for __________. I noticed it, and it really made me feel ______. You’re the best!”
Thank you for how you supported me
“Thank you for having my back with __________. It made me feel like we are team.”
Thank you for who you are
“Thank you for being the kind of person who __________. I really love that about you.”
Easy to do, also easy not to do, up to you :)
Before you go: Here are 3 ways I can help
Download Free Love Languages Tactical Guide - Over 40+ ideas on how to ‘speak’ your partners love language.
Date Night: Conversation Gems - Bring more adventure & fun into your relationship with this guided ‘connection questions’ home date night.
Date Nights Dancing - Perfect last minute gift if you still have shopping left
Keep the sparks flying,
Hunter Masters
Director of Romance
