Date 'morning' ideas and a sneaky decision error to discuss

The Spark (by Hunter at Show Her Off Dance).

Connecting Conversations

Sometimes a great question is all you need to start a meaningful conversation :)

This weekend, try asking your significant other:

• What challenge did we overcome well as a couple?

• How do you feel about making new friends at this stage in life? 

• If we co-authored a book, what would be it’s title?

Date “Morning” Idea

All the fun doesn’t have to limited to nights!

Mix things up a bit with a Date Morning :)

Consider:

• Make your partner breakfast in bed or order DoorDash for you both

• Plan breakfast out, just you two, at a restaurant you haven’t tried yet

• Try making a new coffee drink then sit outside and savor it together

To Discuss Together: Resulting

“For any single decision, there are different ways the future could unfold - some better, some worse. When you make a decision, the decision makes certain paths possible (even if you don’t know where they lead) and others impossible. The decision you make determines which set of outcomes are possible and how likely each of those outcomes are. But it doesn’t determine which set of outcomes will actually happen.

The quality of the outcome casts a shadow over our ability to see the quality of the decision.

When people result, they look at whether the outcome/result was good or bad to figure out if the decision was good or bad (also called outcome bias). Luck is what intervenes between your decision and the actual outcome. Resulting diminishes your view of the role of luck.

When you make a decision, you can rarely guarantee a good outcome (or bad one). Instead, the goal is to try and choose the option that will lead to the most favorable range of outcomes.”

Just one of the many interesting insights I found from Annie Duke’s book How to Decide, an excellent book to read if you are interested in improving your decision making skills.

Chat with your partner:

1. How do we each feel / think about this?

2. What is an example of something you ‘resulted’ recently?

3. Is there a decision you’re currently thinking through? List at least 5 possible outcomes from that decision point and discuss how you might set yourself up for the most favorable range